So today is Monday. I spent the weekend traveling to a city I lived in 5 years ago, and I had one of the best times of my life in just those 3 days alone.
So maybe this is just the post-vacation blues talking here, but once I got back home last night, a deep regret washed over me. All of my friends in that city are having a blast, while also suffering under the evils of an increasing cost of living, but the point is, compared to everyone I know in the city I live in now, those friends are actually legitimately happy which is something I haven’t seen in 5 years.
The regret began when I started thinking about the circumstances of why and how I left the city 5 years ago. I was seriously injured, requiring surgery, my job at the time was very difficult and toxic, and I was generally in a deeply depressed and financially poor state. I was barely affording my rent and food, every paycheck was filled with fear about whether I could continue supporting myself, etc.
These were all very valid reasons to leave. I needed a major surgery, I needed physical support to move around from family and others, I needed to find a new job, and I could no longer afford the costs of living in the city.
Revisiting now after having solved all of these problems makes me wonder if I should try to move back to the city. Yes, it’s a very naïve and impulsive thought. I have not done any research on how things have changed. All I know is that the city has gotten much more expensive and the auto traffic is far worse than it was when I left.
In that vein of thought, I put together a few points on what it would take for me to basically press the Yes button on this initiative and actually move back:
- I must have a job lined up
- The salary of the new job MUST be above market rate and MUST be enough for me to comfortably live and have good amount of money leftover to put into savings every month
- The new work environment MUST be a friendly, collaborative workplace where I feel good about contributing my thoughts and ideas to others without fear of retaliation from above or below
- The new living accommodations must be very close to the new workplace. I refuse to sit in traffic for 45 minutes just to get to and from work, leading to the next point which is…
- The new job must have remote WFH options as a capability. I should be able to work from home as often as needed
- From point #2, I need to be out and about more socially, and not get stuck in a routine where all I do is go from home to office to gym and repeat ad nauseum
So if all of the above criteria are met, I could very realistically see myself back in that city within the next year or so, depending on how my current job goes. I will need to save a decent amount of money to have some buffer to move, find a new place, settle in, and relax for a few weeks before the next job starts.
One additional regret I had over this past weekend was not having enough time to see more friends and eat at my favourite places. I think what this means is another trip is in order, bigger and bolder than before. I think I will plan the next trip to coincide with a holiday that falls on a Friday or Monday. This way I can string together 4-5 days of time off consecutively and actually have more time to hang out and have fun on a relaxed schedule.